Every time I get to talk to anyone who is seemingly happily married, I pounce at the chance of asking this:
How did you know that she's/he's the one?
Maybe it's my hopeless romantic side talking or my desperate-I'm-kinda-old-and-I'm-still-single woman anxiety kicking, but I just want to learn, and maybe, hopefully, I could at least detect if Mr. Right is somewhat nearby.
So I usually earnestly listen to their answer, in the hopes that I could figure out a formula to this finding-your-mate mystery. But sure enough, I know that there won't be anything like that. That it all boils down to decisions. Decisions base on what logic and your heart tells you. Yep! That just stripped off the magic and romance out of that.
I think I ask to just hear his love story, how they both met each other, and that's almost always something I would love to hear. I just like the feeling I get from listening. It's addictive.
I think I ask to just hear his love story, how they both met each other, and that's almost always something I would love to hear. I just like the feeling I get from listening. It's addictive.
It's weird because I slowly realize that as I grow older, I trust lesser. I became more guarded. That's probably what I learned in previous years, and it's just sad, holding it back, stopping yourself from giving into the romance, the love story.
But you know, I still believe in that magical thing they called love. I guess when it happens, it will happen. And things will go tumbling down into a whirlwind of fantasy and enchantment. It's just that in real life, it wouldn't be as smooth that you could say they would live happily ever after. It does take work.
A labor of love, perhaps.
A labor of love, perhaps.
4 comments:
Ah well, happily ever after - I first heard of this term when reading all those fantasy stories when I was a kid. But then, I had tasted the worst what love had to offer in the following years - broken hearts, bad break-ups, sometimes rejected ones too. It is true indeed that one kind of learns to trust harder as time goes on. I used to believe that if I met "the one", time would freeze, my heart would beat faster, music would play out of heavens and time would slow down and everything around me would happen in slow motion. But sadly, happens only in movies.
I will tell you one thing for sure which I know and my best friend has voted on - find someone whom you are yourself with and shape him or her to be the ONE.
@vijith: really dear? you can still actually change a person? hmmm that would be challenging, but yeah I think it's still possible. If that could make that person grow to be a better one then well and good.
@Shy.. Well, not change, but shape up; there is a thin line of difference between the two and it is kind of inexplicable, I think. But the whole thing is relative. Considering that the person is the one that you are completely yourself with means that 60 percent of the job is already done. And shaping up works both ways.. shaping the person and also letting the other person shape you ... after all a relationship works based on how both the people tries and adjusts and connects. Then so many factors and I am up for it anytime if you want to debate but I am seriously not a good choice to talk on relationships. Relationships in itself is a complex term.
Happy New year and hope u find ur phone soon. :D
vijith: well sweetie, I agree, topics on relationships are always complex. love in itself is complex, that's why it's good to be single for now...hahaha
Happy New Year too dear! Hope to see you soon or what not. :)
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